It's true, all parents want their children to grow up perfectly, both physically and psychologically. However, despite this desire, it is not uncommon for parents who unknowingly often say words that can destroy a child's spirit. Even to the point of making his son's heart shrink and even shrink.
It would be nice if the failure of a child is due to the child himself, not from other parties let alone parents. If failure arises because of the child's fault, then the child will learn to be open to disappointment and then try his best not to make the same mistake.
The following are examples of words that can destroy a child's spirit instantly.
1. "Never mind, don't dream too high, be realistic, kid!"
Do not invite children to follow the ideals of parents. Maybe it's true that parents have a lot of experience that is far away when compared to their children, but it is not very good to invite children to follow their parents' way of thinking.
In the past, the parent may have failed in trying it, that's why he forbade his child to do the same. In fact, the failure of parents is not the failure of children. Not necessarily the child will fail like his parents. Do not limit children's dreams just because they are not in accordance with the ideals of their parents.
2."It's all because of you!"
In a state of anger, this sentence is often uttered to children without realizing it, because the child made a mistake, because the child lost an important item or because the child accidentally dropped an item until it was damaged. Don't use words like this just to satisfy your anger.
Imagine the impact of these words that can instantly discourage a child. Children's mistakes are not a reference to corner them but teach children about mistakes that can be experienced by anyone and learn to correct these mistakes so they don't make the same mistakes.
3."Base …….!"
Parents shouldn't be making harsh insults that begin with the word 'basic', this is careless, naughty, arbitrary, and so on. Sayings are prayers, remember this, so whatever parents say, it's the same as praying for their children. This model of speech can also make children accustomed to being blamed and finally no longer afraid to make mistakes.
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