Living in modern times is a challenge for us as young people, where we will compete with billions of people for jobs and happiness. As young people, we must have ideals and dreams that match our interests so that they are easy to develop.
Many inspired dreams of people you admire or things you like. Aspirations are purely from a person's desire for his future and how his life will be, but there are those whose goals have been determined by their parents. We often encounter this when parents have a desire for their child to be successful and live a happy life, but unfortunately, many parents just vent their ambitions without thinking about the child's wishes.
Parents and children are inseparable and even closely related. A parent's love and affection goes all the way while a child's love is only along the base, that's the proverb of parental love for children. Every parent has their own way of taking care of and taking care of their child. Parents are not only guardians for us as their children but also as role models for us and we are also their hope. Parents have high hopes for their children, many of whom have determined the future of their children from a young age.
Some parents have determined the direction of how their child's life will go according to their wishes such as where we will go to school, college, what major suits us, what job is good for us.. as if their child can't decide which is good and bad for him and parents do not want to understand what the child wants. As a result, a debate between parents and children occurs. Many parents do not consider in advance what the child is thinking and reasoning. Most parents only think that what they choose is the best for their child and we as children must obey all of that. Therefore, most children always fail in negotiations and discussions with their parents.
Parents who are still conventionally minded will think that formal jobs such as an office, being a doctor, or being a soldier will be respected and so on. Even though times have changed and are very inversely proportional, such as the number of non-formal jobs that are more promising than formal jobs. Jobs such as youtubers, gamers and bloggers, a job that conventional parents think doesn't make sense, even though there are youtubers who have incomes up to hundreds of millions of rupiah. Many parents impose their will on their children. Well, when it's like that? we as obedient children only obey the will of our parents. Of course this has a bad impact that makes children start to lose enthusiasm and motivation. Children who follow the ambitions of their parents have been wrapped in a sense of compulsion to become a burden. Many of the children who become depressed about it, doing things that are not desired and do not like will certainly make us depressed.
Parents should understand their child's position. They are not instrumental in channeling former ambitions. Children also have other hobbies, desires, aspirations which in general can be inversely related to the hobbies of the parents themselves. For example, a president's son, we would think that a president's son would aspire to be president like his father, but it turns out he wants to be a chef because he likes to cook, of course it's very different, isn't it?
The point is that parents should not be selfish towards their children by bestowing their unfulfilled ambitions on their children. Because the child also has the right to choose and make decisions for themselves in the future. We as children must accept the advice of our parents but still we must choose our path going forward, if our parents do not agree with our decision, we should not overdo it or go too far with parents, we must be able to maintain the limits of fairness to parents. Explain to your parents your choice.
When talking or discussing with parents, we must still uphold ethics, after all, parents are the most meritorious people in our lives. Those who take care of and care for us since childhood without feeling tired. Every communication that is important to get the best solution.
Hopefully parents will appreciate the ideals and desires of their children, and their children must still love and respect their parents. We really hope that parents are very concerned with what their children's strengths and preferences are from a young age so that parents only need to direct the interests and talents of the children, so that there is no imposition of parental will on their children and no children are pressured to live their lives.
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